Yes, I see how fitting your analogy is.

The West/former colonial settler Staes is like an abusive man... the woman want to leave with the children. Bu the would rather kill her and the children, than be defied and have to stand on his own two feet to face the world on his own. Taking her wages and using her for domestic labour is so much easier being than living by the sweat of his own brow, and cleaning his own shit.