Truly all the patriarchies conspire to make us women feel we gotta take care of everything and everyone else.... from childhood to our last days.It's as if our own existence, does not belong to us. Thank you for this affirming analysis that we can live without being defined by other's needs. I am speaking as a woman who ran parent's business from age 11, every evening and weeks, in my 30's, looked after divorced sisters 'kids in my weekends and holiday, went on umpteen marches, meetings, conferences relating to social justice causes, climate change worker's rights, reclaim the night... and I haven't even mentioned the needy males infesting my life with their pity ploys... meanwhile, my own home and garden are totally neglected and in a constant mess... So I am saying goodbye to all that, and ... staying cosy at home. Resting while in the midst of making sense of key events in my life, is the new adventure!