When you’re a child, you don’t have another mirror to compare anything to. You only have the broken one and the skewed images reflected from the shards. Some things appear much larger than they are. Other things, smaller. One shard of glass reflects only a tiny portion of the whole.
This reminds me of the work by a sociologies, Mead, , called the Looking Glass ' self, according to which, we form a picture of societal norms and our own place in the world, from our development of 'the Generalised Other', which is an amagamatio of our interactions with significant others. I beleiv eover time, as you mix with people who affirm your perceptions adn values, such as your husband, you can grow in the direction of dismissing the earlier messages. Slef hypnosis helps, please try it.