This is the insanity I'm dealing with - I overstretch myself to take care of my elderly mother, giving her massages, bringing her vitamins and healthy food, gardening brining her plants, , driving two hours to get to her... and after all the effort , expense, she can still be grumpy, mean and expect me to accept abusive behaviour from her precious son. Now I'm in to fourth week of no contact except for responding to one call from her. The peace is wonderful, but I'm also having to accept I will not see my nephews and nieces.