I’ve come to see this as a generational gap in Asian families, a clash of values when kids grow up in the west versus when immigrants suffered. I’m not saying children of other races don’t have similar conflicts with their parents, but almost…
There is a visceral humiliation and suffering in poverty, and the spectre of famine that imagination alone cannot fathom. We who have benefitted from the hard work and sacrifices of our immigrant parents, should remember, that the destitution visited across so many lands that our parents came from, has been and is one of the bitter fruits of white domination, settler colonialism/the mindset of entitlement which resulted in Europeans grabbing others' resources to the nth degree, from the 16th century, to the present day.
For example, the famines in India in the late 19th and mid 20th century were the direct consequence of the English elites’ policy. It's a tragic irony that the descendants of the white people who treated people of colour as less than human (thanks O Great Statesman, Winston Churchill) are the ones who, two generations on, we turn to for friendship and who we identify with, more than the victimised survivors (our parents'/grandparents ' generation) in the country of our ancestors.
And is it really true that the desire for status and power is any less in White America? It's just they have not
1) experienced the extremities of want and powerlessness that arises from poverty and foreign occupation and
2) the ethos of individualism provides for more latitude.in the model of white parenting.