I realize my parents were trying to impart life lessons, but they went about it in the wrong ways. I confronted my mother before on her constantly critical behavior. Her responses suggested she was not even aware how critical she was being. I told her that she often called people “crazy” and “stupid.” She denied this, but proved me right in the next five minutes by calling me stupid. When I pointed this out, she admitted it was just a habit and she didn’t even think about it. I found this sad because it meant she grew up in the same environment and was replicating it on autopilot.
The child teaching the adult... I really beleive most adults lack the skills to bring children up well, repeating intergenrational patterns and trauma. Great that you are the one seeing further and clearer.