The risk and the humanity necessary to cultivating intimacy are diminished by repeated invalidation and the basic absence of decency. Pervasive insecurities result, dwarfing the desire for a heartfelt connection. It’s simply not worth taking the chance. Truth be told, this particular standstill is where I currently find myself. Unlike my client I’m (no longer) explosive, just resigned to it.
Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW
Thank youfor such a brilliantly articulated explanation of invalidation... Many people act as if emotional abuse is kind of vague and fluffy and not to be taken too seriously - obviously not anything like as bad as physical abuse...
But I think the confused state you are driven into is much worse and has a life-killing effect like being stabbed or poisoned with arsenic.