Thank you for this very thought-provoking response. I think it's because so much of what narcissistic people do is about subtle manipulation and decption-based interaction, that it doesn't feel right to say that when their target becomes aware of how they have been damaged and manipulated into doing stuff based on say, the narcissist's pity ploys, that that is not scapegaoting but rather, realisation of harm done.

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