Spot on observation... I feel in myself, that I was brainwashed to think that by explaining things to Palefaces, they would make the appropriate changes. But they do not. All the friendship evaporated when I did not repeat what they wanted to hear.
Over many years of living in the UK I have experienced mostly that their words and their deeds by and large are a psychosis-inducing mismatch, both for them and those of us who live amongst them, on THEIR terms.
This is why Paleface-led 'affirmative action', 'equality of opportunity' and other such mantras, consistently never achieve any change.
They just bring a handful of coconuts like Rich Sunak into visibility to demonstrate the lie that they have a meritocracy.