…those friends divorced her too. This illustration ties into the importance of having your own life. Having your own life while a life with your partner will provide the balance you need. Lastly, love who you are because you bring out your best attributes through self-love. Loving your man first and yourself last will leave you on empty. Also, you are depending on you and only you to fill any voids that may be missing. It may sound cliché but self-love is the best love.