Oh pleeeease! Under patriarchy, men in general, are taught to be entitled, and women are taught to be nurturing, all-forgiving and serve serve serve. You were lucky to have the finances to afford a therapist. The whole article is heavy with sorrow for what? Your mistake in narrowing down entire existence to one man giving you meaning and affirmation.

Such over-identifying with someone who as you yourself say from day one, failed to even attempt to see you as a human being is a pathological mistake on your part, which you hopefully, will not make again.

Better to give of yourself to a hungry orphan - more worthy recipient of your compassion I think.