I do not think we should expect each other to ‘get over it,’ whatever it may be, because the past cannot be undone. When we lose something we love, it’s like a cut on our skin. Some losses are superficial and heal more quickly, while others are deep gaping wounds that heal slowly, and can bleed easily with the slightest touch. But even when we heal, the scars remain. We can see them on our skin. We can feel them with our hands. Those moments forever become a part of us and we simply learn to live with them over time.
Of course, counselling and therapy and the psychology subject and it's offshoots are part of the capitalist mindset. So for exaple, whilst indigenous cultures ahve tradtions around mourning that can last for 40 days, iand ceremonies of rememberance continue year after year, n the 'developed ' world, you are lucky if you are 'given', a few days off for a funeral.
I'm so glad you did not boyw to the therapist's sene of what was appropriate for you... As you say, soemthings that happen in life affect us profoundly so that they become are part of who we are.