In my experience most South Asian/Indian women expect a LOT in return - obedience from their children for example . Her sons must be her bodyguard and provider and protector, loyal only to her. never should he show too much affection or respect for his wife ! Her daughters should serve her in old age - without question. Those who do not are punished with the silent treatment . She complied with the patriarchal norms but is bitter and often vindictive.