I'm still recovering a week after I pampered my mother as it was the memorial for my father... but she took it as time to take take take and excuse every lazy and pathetic behaviour of my brother... basically the room he's filled with items from his failed computer business over 22 years ago, suddenly I should be the one to get it ready for guests... My saying to her, no, not me but he should deal with his crap and the dust, got my mother angry with me.

Yet she knew I'd been ill with asthma... I

feel like I never want to see her again. For years, I drive over there (it takes 2 hours) I've been going, given her massages, cleaning her place, cooking her breakfast, doing her garden, and she still acts like her son is God and I am her home help (unpaid of course)!