i understand this as I've had to distance myself from the misogynistic core of most South Asian/Arabic culture based on Islam in which a woman is demeaned as having no value and social significance, if she refuses to get married and have children. At the same time, the liberalism of whites is a fickle miasma - I am finding that it is easy to get isolated by the covert racism of white peopole I regarded as friends and allies.

Basically when you refuse to complywith the prevailing stereotypes you are very much swimming against the tide of 'normality', in every community.