I think this is key - you have hit the nail on the head... we make excuses for the gaslighter, seeing them as in some way troubled, weaker, and vulnerable and so we choose to be the ‘bigger person'… - Aza Y. Alam

…. The observation I shared with Lucy — and to others I talk to who are targets of gaslighting — is: “It seems like it was more important to consider his motivations than to listen to yourself and your feelings of being unsettled or uncomfortable.”
How Did This Happen? A Story About the Insidious Nature of Gaslighting
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I think this is key - you have hit the nail on the head... we make excuses for the gaslighter, seeing them as in some way troubled, weaker, and vulnerable and so we choose to be the ‘bigger person' and let the nasty little comment or ignore the diminishment of our achievements etc etc.
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Exploring the entanglements of gender, race and class during this era of the Eurokleptocene. Let’s do better, one story, one learning, one comment at a time.
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