I think I was definitely brainwashed into the mindset that gives all, to the Holy Mother, forgives all, if the Holy Mother does it... but it really is an recipe for abuse that we need to quickly grow out of... or we become stunted and mis-shapen. as hordes of embittered daughters can attest and the shape of the Indian patriarchy demonstrates. I am quite sure you occupy quite the opposite world , as a son! Of course that has it's drawbacks many mothers, posing as martyrs turn their sons into their emotional crutuch/spouse.