I find this works with my mother who has treated me like her adult confidante and support since I ws 11. She also places all hr disappointments and frustrations on me and so I've vacillated between avoiding seeing her, to being there a week at a time... which has left me exhausted. For 2022, I've decided I will go one day, stay over and leave the next, thus helping he rout with practical things, but not drowning myself in emotional stuff.