I certainly know women who are loving in similar ways to their daughters as to their sons; and I also know / know of males who are principled, gentle, would not be deliberately exploitative. However, patriarchal values in general and Muslim families in my experience, have a deep seated double standard vis a vis sons and daughters, wives and husbands . It is deeply devaluing of females and becomes vicious when women refuse to comply . That is why the rates of physical abuse, murder and abuse in the form of coercive control are so prevalent , rape culture and violent pornography have become almost normalised .