I am so sorry that you have also had to go through this sort of thankless energy drain, where your compassion and love are taken for granted and you yourself are not supported... I know the feeling !

I am the middle daughter but as I rebelled against the arranged marriage scenario, but my elder and younger sisters were conventional so I got to be the one that everyone turns to ... because I didnt allow an unworthy man to enter my life, didnt have children for him to abandon and therefore I am not in desperate need of others' help!!!