How very kind and generous of you to respond in such a thoughtful way - one problem with feeling shocked and very very angry about something is that calm reasoned thinking is not accessible... and the way you have written and considerations you have outlined is what I needed from my two friends... I'm pretty sure it was not malicious...

I think your friend being gay takes away that dynamic that perhaps always does underlie people who are heterosexual.

I think I need to reread your beautiful outlining of various possibilities and I love how you offer reassurance.

A very big thank you - I just woke up and ... you have made my day ! 🙏🏾💕💕💕